So Joseph and I began our married life. It was a home, filled with marital love but he had no sexual relations with me. Many would find this impossible. Many do not believe it, even though it is clearly told in the gospels. Many would say, “What kind of marriage is this when the couple does not enjoy the bodily oneness that consummates the personal union?”
Indeed, marriage is a deep personal relationship which, in the natural, is consummated by the physical union of bodies that can bring forth new life. But the natural does not exhaust the possibilities of human existence. The natural should open out to the supernatural and to God’s will.
Putting Aside Bodily Union
At times, God’s wants the couple to refrain from bodily union. There are external causes (like physical illness) or internal causes. For example, the couple believes they are not ready to conceive another child. So, in every marriage, if it is truly open to the supernatural, there will be times, even periods of time, when the couple would set aside their bodily union.
Our marriage was even deeper in the supernatural. God had claimed my body as his own. God’s Son was living in my womb. Even before this mystery existed, I had accepted a supernatural call to perpetual virginity. Joseph, also, had received the call to be my husband and to safeguard my perpetual call. Our relationship was full and deeply loving, but there was also a unique supernatural aspect which I will try to explain.
Marriage in the Beginning
More than any couple, we lived in God’s presence. Adam and Eve also had lived in this presence and had accepted their male/female relationship as a gift from God. They had not yet joined their bodies and Eve had not yet conceived or become “the Mother of the Living”. Yet, they lived in the deepest of love.
However, when sin came, their supernatural relationship with God was destroyed and their relationship with each other became distorted. It was never the same. They could never regain the greatness of their relationship which came from God’s supernatural gifts. Only by the supernatural was the natural sustained. When the supernatural was destroyed, an evil entered their relationship which they could not control.
This is the state of marriage now present in the world. To regain its greatness, marriage needs the supernatural. My marriage with Joseph had the fullness of supernatural blessings. Through us, all generations of spouses can regain the supernatural equilibrium of the original couple.
Our marriage is a light put upon the lampstand. Marriage is not primarily a bodily union. It is a union of persons brought about by God’s supernatural gifts. The more God’s power and kingdom rule in the marriage, the higher will be their relationship and the fuller will be the sexual life which they enjoy. The spouses will be equals, with each bringing their gift of masculinity and femininity to the relationship. Each will complement the other. By their own power, the couple cannot build a marriage relationship because they carry too much sin and selfishness. By faith, the supernatural can join them in a way that even their sinfulness cannot destroy. Do you think a man can love a woman, and vice-versa during their entire life without the power of supernatural love? This is too much for human love because its strengths are too soon exhausted.
You married couples who struggle in your relationship, especially in your sexual life, run to Joseph and me. Come together in prayer and we will gladly share our supernatural gifts so you can begin to enjoy marriage “as it was in the beginning” before sin destroyed what God had planned. We lived in this supernatural gift to help you to live in a marriage which enjoys natural and supernatural helps.
Comment: Mary explains that personal selfishness destroys a relationship. God’s supernatural gifts are needed to destroy selfishness.